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Comforting a sad girl is not always easy. You can make her mood better or worse if you don't know how. The following tips may help.

Step 1: Approach

Understand the situation: What is that girl sad about. Can the problem be a truly sad event like her grandparents who have just died or just had a quarrel with her best friend? When you understand the problem, it will help you find what she wants most. If she is facing a loss, don't try to make her laugh or distract her with funny stories, but if she has a quarrel with her friend then you might have a way Funny approach. Notice not to say much about the cause of her sadness. She will be even more sad. Not all problems are the same. The more you understand the situation, the better you can respond.

Find out what she wants: This is very important. If she says, "I want to be alone and really want it, give her a specific time and don't make her feel worse when hanging around with her while she just want to be alone. But if she says "I want to be alone" but the nuance still wants you to stay, you need to make it clear. You need to analyze to understand whether she really wants to be alone or just because she doesn't want to bother you. If she wants to talk, try to understand what she wants to talk about when she is sad.

Show affection: Most girls want to be hugged or someone shows affection when they are sad. If the two of you are close to each other, just having your arms wrapped or lightly touching your shoulders, holding hands or lightly touching your knees will make the girl feel better. When a girl is sad, what she wants is to feel that you really are there for her and that you should show affection to her. You can also bring a tissue, a cup of coffee, a warm blanket or anything that makes her feel better and better.

Step 2: Make her feel better

Let her show her emotions: What she wants most is to tell you exactly how she is feeling, if she doesn't want to be alone. So let her cry, she said and threw things if necessary. Don't try to come up with specific solutions, ask millions of questions so you can understand what's going on. Do not try to jump right into the story and offer many immediate solutions. When she needs advice, she will ask you. Now it is important to let her "let go" of the sadness. You probably already know what you should do but this is not the time for you to act.

All you need to comfort a girl is to spend time with her. Artwork: Internet

Listen: If a girl is sad, she needs more than anything else, you can listen to her. She doesn't want to hear your thoughts on this issue and just wants you to listen so don't try to interrupt her story by asking her questions or giving her opinions, please point Make eye contact, and make comments like: "How do you understand how hard / hard / hard ...". Let her see that you really care and let her finish the story without trying to interrupt or interrupt the story. You can nod her to see that you're interested but don't be too excited because she'll think you're urging her to finish the story or you're fake.

Don't try to make your point: The best way for a girl to feel better is to say things like "It's okay" or "everything will be fine". Maybe you think you can help her come up with ideas but that only makes her feel worse. It is important that she needs you to support her spirit and not listen to your opinions.

Ask if she needs you to do something? After she says her feelings, can you ask what you can do to make her feel better? Just ask that question she will understand you care about doing something good for her. This will make her feel better.

Don't try to tell her that you understand her feelings: What she needs to be heard is not that you understand her feelings. You should say things like: "I can't imagine what you've just experienced" or "I can't understand why ..." such sentences will help them feel their feelings are reasonable

Step 3: Continue to make her feel better

Stay with her: Sometimes you don't need any help, don't need to say or do anything too much to make her feel better. If she has a bad problem, all you need to do is with her and make her understand that she's not alone. All you need to do is spend time with her. Let her see that she is always the number one priority for you. You may have a lot of intentions to do but don't let her go beyond your mind.

Act to "pull" her out of sadness: She may want to be alone but if possible, do everything she can to get her out of the house. Even if she doesn't like noisy places, you can take her to places with fresh air so she feels better, making her forget about the grief and her problems. Being met for even a moment: a gentle comedy can make her feel better, or she can take her to dinner, drink coffee, eat ice cream. Remember, women who are sad often have a habit of forgetting to eat and take care of themselves. So remember to take care of her, do not take her to drink to "grief" that is not a good way. Take her for a walk, breathe fresh air to feel comfortable and feel more focused. You should not lead her to events that are too crowded,