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“I am in this world not to live up to your expectations, 

and he is in this world not to live up to my expectations. ” 

―Ly Xiao Long

The biggest disappointment in life is often the result of our misplaced expectations. This is especially true when talking about our relationship with those around us.   

Lowering your expectations for others will significantly reduce unnecessary frustrations and suffering in your life and their lives, and help you focus on what really matters. . That means you should not continue to expect that ... 

1. Everyone should accept you.

You deserve to be happy. You deserve to live a life that you find interesting. Don't let other people's opinions make you forget it. You are born not to live up to the expectations of others, nor should you assume that other people are present to live up to your expectations. In fact, the more satisfied you are with your decisions in life, the less you need others to accept you.  

You must dare to be yourself and listen to your intuition, whether you feel or know how scary or strange it is. Don't compare yourself to others. Don't let their progress or success stop you. Follow your own path and stick to your original goal. Ultimately, success means living a happy life in your own way. 

2. Everyone should respect you more than you respect yourself.

The true power of a person lies in the soul and spirit of that person, not in the muscles. Meaning to trust your true self and be ready to act on it. Right now, decide to never ask anyone to love, respect and pay attention to you - things that you should have done for yourself.   

Today, look at your image in the mirror and say, "I love myself, and from now on I will act like that." Being kind to others is important, but kind to yourself. I am even more important. Practicing love and respect for yourself is also about giving me the opportunity to be happy. When happy, you become a better friend, a better family member, and a better version of yourself.   

3. Everyone should love you.

You may feel like you are just a person who is worthless and worthless to someone, but you may be invaluable to someone else. Never forget your own values. Take time for those who value you. No matter how well you treat others, there is always a negative person criticizing you. Smile, ignore them and continue to live.  

The hardest fight you have to take part in is the fight to be true to yourself. And when you live, there will be people who are dissatisfied with it. Sometimes other people will make fun of your name because you are "different". But it doesn't matter. It is the new differences that make YOU HIM, and the right people will love you for that. 

4. Everyone should live the way you want.

Loving and respecting others means letting them be themselves. When you stop expecting everyone to be this or that, you can accept THEY.  

Respect others based on who they are, not the person you want them to be. We don't understand others as much as we think. Every human being is special and beautiful; And just be patient, you will realize it. The more you understand someone, the more you can see through your appearance and see their inner beauty.  

5. Everyone should know what you think.

Nobody can read other people's thoughts. If you don't open your lips, they never know how you feel. Does your boss not understand you? Yes, he doesn't know what you're hoping to get promoted, because you haven't told him yet. The lovely guy you are still shy about not talking? Yes, you guessed it right, he is afraid to talk to you because you are also afraid to talk to him.  

In life, you need to communicate with others regularly and effectively. And often you should be the one to take the initiative. You need to let others know what you think. Just simple as that. 

6. Everyone should quickly change their habits.

It is difficult to force a person to abandon their habit. If you really want them to change anything, sincerely express all your thoughts so they understand your feelings and desires.  

However, often you can't change others in and don't try to force them to change, because the right of choice belongs to them. When you try to change someone, often they are "as old as", but if you don't try to change them - if you support and let them be free of themselves - then gradually they will change In the most positive direction, because what really changes is how you look at them.  

7. Everyone is "okay".

Be kinder than necessary, because every person you meet is fighting in a war, just like you. Every smile or gesture that expresses a strong will contains a complex and special inner battle like yours.  

Remember that recognizing positive things doesn't mean ignoring negative things. Our value lies in our ability to overcome adversity and insecurities, not to avoid it. Supporting, sharing and contributing to others is one of the best things about life. We will naturally do these things if we allow it to happen, because everyone has similar dreams, needs and difficulties. Don't expect everyone to be "okay" and not have any problems. 

People rarely behave the way you want. Hopefully the best things will come to them, and don't expect them too much. And remember, your thoughts and how you choose to think about things will directly affect your level of happiness. A thing or a relationship that doesn't work well still brings value to you, so that you find something new or learn a new lesson.